Sometimes a relationship can appear to be moving along nicely and
then, out of the blue, something happens to cause the woman to question
the legitimacy of the whole relationship. Instead of many aspects of
the relationship being as solid as she assumed them to be, she now
suspects she does not hold the position in the relationship she once
believed she held. She now feels as if she is her partner's "pretend"
girlfriend. Is this really true?
Here are a few ways to confirm your suspicions...
1. His friends and family know nothing about you. This means your partner has gone to great lengths to keep any knowledge of you from them. Anytime you mention seeing his family or friends, he always seems to have the perfect excuse why "this isn't a good time". The truth is, there is never going to be a good time because you are a temporary part of his life and not someone he wants to bother introducing to his family and/or friends.
2. He never talks about the future. Or, if he does, it conveniently never seems to include you. He might chalk it up to being gun-shy of being hurt from planning too much too quickly but, the truth is, he sees his future and you just happen to not be a part of it.
3. There are major gaps in his life and background you don't know anything about. New relationships are all about getting to know one another. If you have been dating a while and, yet, you still have many unanswered questions he doesn't seem to be willing to open up about, either he's in the witness protection program or he really has a lot to hide from you.
4. He still hasn't updated his Facebook status. Even though you have mentioned it to him a "thousand times", he has avoided updating his status. Why would he be so hesitant? It's simple: so he can keep his options open.
5. He introduces you as his "friend" without the "girl" in front of it. Ouch! That's gotta hurt. This gives you a clear indication he sees you as a friend and nothing special beyond that. Oh, he'll try to brush his remark off as being "no big deal" or "nothing to worry about", but you should be worried... be very worried.
6. You don't know where he lives or works. What do you need to show you the truth? Hello! He's hiding something!
Here are a few ways to confirm your suspicions...
1. His friends and family know nothing about you. This means your partner has gone to great lengths to keep any knowledge of you from them. Anytime you mention seeing his family or friends, he always seems to have the perfect excuse why "this isn't a good time". The truth is, there is never going to be a good time because you are a temporary part of his life and not someone he wants to bother introducing to his family and/or friends.
2. He never talks about the future. Or, if he does, it conveniently never seems to include you. He might chalk it up to being gun-shy of being hurt from planning too much too quickly but, the truth is, he sees his future and you just happen to not be a part of it.
3. There are major gaps in his life and background you don't know anything about. New relationships are all about getting to know one another. If you have been dating a while and, yet, you still have many unanswered questions he doesn't seem to be willing to open up about, either he's in the witness protection program or he really has a lot to hide from you.
4. He still hasn't updated his Facebook status. Even though you have mentioned it to him a "thousand times", he has avoided updating his status. Why would he be so hesitant? It's simple: so he can keep his options open.
5. He introduces you as his "friend" without the "girl" in front of it. Ouch! That's gotta hurt. This gives you a clear indication he sees you as a friend and nothing special beyond that. Oh, he'll try to brush his remark off as being "no big deal" or "nothing to worry about", but you should be worried... be very worried.
6. You don't know where he lives or works. What do you need to show you the truth? Hello! He's hiding something!
If you are a pretend girlfriend, what is behind you staying with
this person? Are destructive emotions at the heart of any problems you
are experiencing with this relationship? If so, you need to get control
of what you are really telling yourself. What are your beliefs?
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